In every relationship current or past you can pinpoint where your victories have taken place and even misfortunes. But, how often do you see or even think about the casualties of our actions?
Blending a family may be a good ideal for you as male needing help with the children or her who’s just tired of being alone raising children. But are you willing to take time out to become a counselor, nurse and even a doctor to the casualties of the divorce war i.e. the (kids). Now, if it’s more then a good ideal and it’s a God ideal your labor will not be in vain you and your mate will bond. The casualties will heal becoming victors and you will live to talk about.
Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. PS 127:1a Niv
As one reflects back briefly at past relationships or even marriages the greatest reflection to see is self. In spite of the outcome of the past you were able to regroup and be begin to take control of your life. However, there is a group that’s stuck in the mirror hunted by their past loss, hurts and misfortunes refusing to let go.
The greatest thing about a mirror is it allows you to see you. It’s just a Love Thing! You are loved no matter what negative reflections you see, because God is all Love. And he takes negatives and turn them into a positive testimony. Now that is Love.
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Cor. 13:11-13 Niv
When your emotions are scattered we tend to say words that we may later regret. “Life and Death are in the Power of the tongue!” So, for today take a moment and don’t let every little thing upset you. Take a pause for the cause.
Now that we have some basic insight into what today’s 21st century blended family child is crying out after. There must be a response to the cry. I would like to do this in a question form.
1. Are you really there for your children? I define our children as yours and your mates.
2. Are you a Protector of your entire home? Or, are you suffering from a spirit of abuse? (Physical, Emotional, or Spiritual)
3. Is your home a place of refuge where your family can feel safe and feel safe to come home? Only you can answer these questions honestly within your heart. If for some reason you can’t answer them, please stop pray and seek guidance.
Listen to me! Quickly deliver me! Be my protector and refuge, a stronghold where I can be safe! Net Ps 31:2 (stronghold – a strongly fortified defensive structure)
Dear Lord: Touch every family that maybe struggling with issues that’s really more then they can handle. Quickly hear them, Lead them and most importantly send them someone that they can confide in. Including our military families. In His Name!
When I was a boy in my father’s house, still tender, and an only child of my mother, he taught me and said, lay hold of my words with all your heart keep my commands and you will live. Prov 1:3-4 Niv
Men there is a generation of children crying out in today’s 21st century blended family. I need my father! Someone to lead, guide, teach, discipline and even pray for me.
Just as a young lady starves for your attention also that young man is awaiting in the wings near by. You must always take time our to see what’s not being said. A drive, hug, walk, talk, movie, even making one of their school events will go along way. Remember these unspoken words: I need my dad, but do he have time for me!
Have you ever asked the question who is this stranger in our house?
As a couple after you take a deep breath, take of your rose colorized glasses to see the real picture.
Begin to deal with the issues at hand that has creeped into your home. Such as anger, bitterness, loss, just to name a few. Remember you are dealing with a very tender situation. This stranger is the issues we continue to place into the nearest cubby hold or under the nearest rug that can be found.
“From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied. The tongue has the power of life and death,” Ps 18:20-21 Niv
Children are a gift from the Lord, According to Psalm 127:3-5. They are God’s possession, not ours. He has temporarily placed them under our care; in effect, our children are “on loan” from God for the 18 or so years they are under our roof. We have been given the task of raising them up from a state of complete dependence to a state of complete independence so that we can release them to God by the time they reach maturity. So, the question at hand is that we bring them up in the fear of the Lord or by public opinion? Now, may they come to an understanding that they are a gift and not a burden?
In the potters hand!
A blended family is a good example of God placing the three that became one back on the Potters Wheel. For the purpose of making one complete unified unit. For my grace is sufficient for thee…. 2 Cor 12:9,
Some within and outside the family may see this new merger as not good. Jerm 18:4 states; and the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seem good to the potter to make it. NIV Just as the potter worked we must do the same. For it was good to the potter not left up to public opinion. http://ow.ly/8upKN
Among the 2,691 adults surveyed by the Pew Research Center from October 1-21, 2010, 42% say they have at least one step relative. Three-in-ten have a step or half sibling, 18% have a living stepparent, and 13% have at least one stepchild.1
Having a stepfamily is not something most people anticipate or plan for, and that is reflected in the survey findings. When asked whether their family life has turned out about as they expected or if it is different than they expected, a 54% majority of those who have at least one step relative say things have turned out differently than they expected. This compares with only 41% of those who have no step relatives.
Today, more than four-in-ten American adults have at least one step relative in their family – either a stepparent, a step or half sibling or a stepchild. Per “Pew Research Center”
In essences blended/step families are on the rise. So the question is are you prepared for this new shift if you are on the verge of a divorce or remarriage.