I think that there are three major aspects of change. One is honesty. We need to be more honest, more aware, and more truthful in facing things that we have not faced.
Another aspect is grief. This is needed in every situation, not just when someone dies. In every problem situation there is usually some sort of loss involved. It may be simply the loss of what we hoped for.
It may be the loss of a dream. There are all kinds of losses involved. By grieving we are able to move to acceptance. We need to have an acceptance of life the way it really is.
This is the opposite of hoping that life is different than it really is, hoping for an alternate reality. Grief is at the heart of all change.
The third aspect of change is forgiveness, which is another process of letting go. In this case, rather than letting go of false hope, you are letting go of revenge. You are letting go of trying to make people pay for your disappointments.
It is very important to keep those three things in order. That really is the order: honesty, grief, and forgiveness.
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