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In the mist of your fiercest storm it’s easy to become overwhelmed. Though Christ may delay His arrival to assist you, it is for the purpose of strengthtening your faith.
We never know how much real faith we have until it is put to the test in some fierce storm.
Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might.
“For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that for outweighs them all.” 1 Corinthians 4:17 (NIV)
“What is the purpose of your problems and difficulties? God wants you to learn something. Every storm is a school. Every trial is a teacher. Every experience is an education. Every difficulty is for your development.
Most of us are slow learners. If you don’t learn something the first time, God will bring it up again in your life. It will come back because God is more interested in your character than he is in your comfort. He is more interested in making you like Christ than he is making things easy for you.” Rick Warren
You may be facing a major difficulty right now: an illness, financial problem, strain in a relationship or just a day-to-day struggle. Does God have a message for you while you’re going through your difficulties? Yes, he will never leave you or forsake you. Stay encouraged and get connect?
So many children are affected by residing in a fatherless home. Check out the following statistics
* 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
(Source: U.S. D.H.K.S., Bureau of the Census)
* 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
(Source: U.S- D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
*85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
(Source: Center for Disease Control)
*80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes
(Source:Criminal Justice & Behavior,Vol 14, p- 403-26, 1978
*71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
(Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High schools)
*75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
(Source: Rainbows For All God’s Children.)
*70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes
(Source: U.S. Dept. of justice, special Report, Sept 1988)
These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:
*5 times more likely to commit suicide.
*32 times more likely to run away.
*20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
*14 times more likely to commit rape
*9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
*10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
*9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
*20 times more like to end up in prison.
The above is an excerpt from the Guide to Fathers Rights
Modifying support through increased visitation is sometimes possible as part of an integrated approach to custody/visitation/support .Tactics and other forms and documents to litigate child support and deal with interstate support problems USING THIS INTEGRATED APPROACH are discussed in “The custody/divorce kit” and are available by clicking this link to the THE FATHERS’ RIGHTS FOUNDATION
CHILD SUPPORT STATISTICS
The U.S. Census Bureau has reported that fathers with joint custody pay 90.2% of all child support ordered; fathers with limited visitation rights pay 79.1%; and 44.5% of those fathers with NO visitation rights still financially support their children.
I’m sure these STATISTICS are much higher now.
The importance of being a father is not limited to the benefits to children. In fact, research has found that having a positive father involvement carries benefits for men as well.
Fathers have much to benefit from their relationships with their children. A few of the main benefits for involved fathers:
- More developed sense of self and self-confidence Greater ability to care for others; a more mature understanding of empathy
- An increased ability to express and demonstrate positive emotions Increased ability to delay gratification in benefit of others
- A greater participation in the community Larger involvement in the church
A greater sense of well-being and personal satisfaction Source: “The Effects of Father Involvement: A Summary of the Research Evidence,” Father Involvement Initiative Ontario Network, Fall 2002 newsletter; and Glen Palm, “Involved Fatherhood: A Second Chance,” Journal of Men’s Studies, November 1993.
“The guys who fear becoming fathers don’t understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects men.” —Frank S. Pittman, M.D.
Pressures of life as a disable person will force you to view life situations differently then when you were totally healthy. Disabilities can affect you in many forms such as; Emotionally, Physically, Financially and Spiritually. After having several major surgeries on my spine, and being wheel chair bound, I felt emotionally battered, in a physical pit, financial rut and spiritually bankrupted.
This had altered my life in ways, which I never would have expected as a man. Part of me wanted to give up! A good friend made this statement to me: “By faith do you believe that your car will start once you place the key in to the ignition and turn it?” I answer yes! Well why you can’t believe that by faith you are healed. Even if I was to never rise up out of my new chair there is hope.
Today, giving up is not an option. By faith and connecting with other disable men and women I realize I’m whole by the grace of God. I just had to change my mind set, and become proactive in facing challenges face on. I endured therapy for several months along with crying and praying. I can say it has paid dividends. I’m up walking and back in the gym. The good news here is, I don’t know what the future holds but today I am standing on the word of the Lord by faith.
God desire to use your “Disability for his Ability!” You’re not alone. Whatever the situation maybe there is a plan that will workout for your good.
Become an encourager that encourages others!
David A. H. Gavin
Who Disciplines Which Kids? It is usually easier and more natural for the biological parent to discipline his or her own child/children. However, some couples do share responsibility for discipline. REMEMBER: each child is unique and will react to discipline in different ways, whether applied by the parent or step-parent.
Be kind and patient when applying discipline, but not indulgent. Set firm limits without anger or spite. Make sure to let the child know that he or she is valued, but misbehavior is not acceptable. Even in a nuclear family, children will test limits, so when a stepchild says, “You can’t tell me what do; you’re not my parent,” try to avoid an angry power struggle. State your position and stick to it, preferably with the support of your partner.