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Come out of the Pond


We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea.

Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.C. JoyBell C.

The Pressures of Life from the Eyes of a Disable Person


Pressures of life as a disable person will force you to view life situations differently then when you were totally healthy. Disabilities can affect you in many forms such as; Emotionally, Physically, Financially and Spiritually. After having several major surgeries on my spine, and being wheel chair bound, I felt emotionally battered, in a physical pit, financial rut and spiritually bankrupted.

This had altered my life in ways, which I never would have expected as a man. Part of me wanted to give up! A good friend made this statement to me: “By faith do you believe that your car will start once you place the key in to the ignition and turn it?” I answer yes! Well why you can’t believe that by faith you are healed. Even if I was to never rise up out of my new chair there is hope.

Today, giving up is not an option. By faith and connecting with other disable men and women I realize I’m whole by the grace of God. I just had to change my mind set, and become proactive in facing challenges face on. I endured therapy for several months along with crying and praying. I can say it has paid dividends. I’m up walking and back in the gym. The good news here is, I don’t know what the future holds but today I am standing on the word of the Lord by faith.

God desire to use your “Disability for his Ability!” You’re not alone. Whatever the situation maybe there is a plan that will workout for your good.

Become an encourager that encourages others!

David A. H. Gavin

Dgavin921@gmail.com

Twitter: @blended_family

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Who Disciplines Which Kids?


Who Disciplines Which Kids? It is usually easier and more natural for the biological parent to discipline his or her own child/children. However, some couples do share responsibility for discipline. REMEMBER: each child is unique and will react to discipline in different ways, whether applied by the parent or step-parent.

Be kind and patient when applying discipline, but not indulgent. Set firm limits without anger or spite. Make sure to let the child know that he or she is valued, but misbehavior is not acceptable. Even in a nuclear family, children will test limits, so when a stepchild says, “You can’t tell me what do; you’re not my parent,” try to avoid an angry power struggle. State your position and stick to it, preferably with the support of your partner.

Only if I could tell them whats on my mind

Dad’s Your Daughters Needs You!


Dads give guidance to their sons and moms guidance their daughters. But particularly as girls mature, they need their dads’ perspective as they approach significant crossroads. Daughters need the benefit of their dads’ life experiences and wisdom as they consider important life decisions and think through possible consequences of their choices.

Your daughter also needs to know that you cherish her as a person and you admire her as a lovely young woman. She isn’t just another person; she is special and unique, and worthy of your attention. She is royalty. Your love maybe what it takes for her not to fade into the shadows of darks wondering around looking for hope. She needs you to be a dad not a stranger perpetrating to be someone he’s not. 

Begin today by loving her with a simple phone call, taking her to lunch or better yet a hug. 

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David A. Harris-Gavin

Blendedfamilyaffair@gmail.com

The Impact of Change


Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.  King Whitney Jr.  Don’t allow the psychological impact of change discourage the greatest dicussion you ever made in your life.  Which can impact you for the rest of your life.

You have set goals, objectives and visions it’s time to see them through.  Today, change inwardly by stepping out on faith.

 

Ready for a Change


Are you ready for a change in your life?  A new adventure, new scenery, new love, new attitude, new home, whatever your desire it begins with you.  Just know changes come with a price.  It’s like being in the hand of a potter; being remolded or reshaped.  The end result is unknown.  The bottom-line change is for the best…..  GET READY FOR A CHANGE TODAY!

 

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Three Major Aspects of Change


I think that there are three major aspects of change. One is honesty. We need to be more honest, more aware, and more truthful in facing things that we have not faced.

Another aspect is grief.  This is needed in every situation, not just when someone dies. In every problem situation there is usually some sort of loss involved. It may be simply the loss of what we hoped for.

It may be the loss of a dream. There are all kinds of losses involved. By grieving we are able to move to acceptance. We need to have an acceptance of life the way it really is.

This is the opposite of hoping that life is different than it really is, hoping for an alternate reality. Grief is at the heart of all change.

The third aspect of change is forgiveness, which is another process of letting go. In this case, rather than letting go of false hope, you are letting go of revenge. You are letting go of trying to make people pay for your disappointments.

It is very important to keep those three things in order. That really is the order: honesty, grief, and forgiveness.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Maria Robinson

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