Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever! 1 Ch 16:34 ESV
Love is the key ingredient to destroying a hateful mindset. As, you go through your day remember that people will be more thankful for the unconditional love you’ve shown towards them.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” —Maya Angelou
Purpose of your problems and difficulties
“For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that for outweighs them all.” 1 Corinthians 4:17 (NIV)
“What is the purpose of your problems and difficulties? God wants you to learn something. Every storm is a school. Every trial is a teacher. Every experience is an education. Every difficulty is for your development.
Most of us are slow learners. If you don’t learn something the first time, God will bring it up again in your life. It will come back because God is more interested in your character than he is in your comfort. He is more interested in making you like Christ than he is making things easy for you.” Rick Warren
You may be facing a major difficulty right now: an illness, financial problem, strain in a relationship or just a day-to-day struggle. Does God have a message for you while you’re going through your difficulties? Yes, he will never leave you or forsake you. Stay encouraged and get connect?
The first step to a healthy remarriage is you. Is this a surprise? Life wounds all of us. The losses, disappointments and hurts of life will not heal themselves—you must choose to heal. In fact, you will not grow until healing has taken place—and this takes time. (From the book, “Looking Before You Leap … Again!”)
Every 45 seconds a marriage ends in America. With it ends not only a covenant of love, but also the stability of a home, financial solidity, and a model of committed love for children to take into their own marriages. Every 45 seconds, American loses more than another marriage. It loses another building block in the structure of what secures her future: strong, loving relationships based on respect, commitment and integrity. This year alone 1.2 million families will experience the rupturing and fragmentation of divorce. Hearts shattered. Children devastated. Hope lost.
Statistics say it all…
1.2 Million couples across America file for divorce each year.
$112 Billion is the annual cost of divorce to taxpayers
4 Weeks of work time is lost during the first year after a divorce
$150 Billion is the annual cost of divorce to U.S. businesses
America is only as strong and healthy as the integral relationships that make her grow and prosper. Committed marriages establish solid families which build strong communitites. Where marriages are committed to serving Christ and each other, relationships thrive.
There is hope in mist of your crisis, just make God your center peace.
There is a pressing need for marriages today.
Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology
The book of Hebrews assures us that in Jesus Christ we have a high priest who sympathizes with us in our circumstances: Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need—Hebrews 4:16 (ESV).
Will you draw near the throne with us to lift up today’s families through prayer.
“There were probably many factors that kept the relationship going and kept your love alive. There were all his promises. “I promise this will never happen again.” You believed him the first time. And the second. As the abuse continued, he became increasingly remorseful, his promises more insistent. You continued to believe him; you wanted to believe him. After all, you loved him.
Then there were all the apologies. He seemed truly sorry. You forgave him. Now, however, when you think back, you realize the apologies were conditional. They blamed you! “I’m sorry, but if only you hadn’t…” They always made his abuse somehow your fault. You may have begun to believe this, and you may even remember apologizing to him. You began to believe that if you were careful about what you said or did, you could prevent the abuse from happening again. As the abuse escalated over time, the blaming became more obvious. “I didn’t mean to hurt you, but if you just weren’t so [stupid, ugly, careless, dumb, etc.], this would never have happened.” Time after time you were made to believe that every act of violence or abuse was your fault. Day after day you were made to feel that you were unworthy of him.”
― Meg Kennedy Dugan, It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
Take pride in who you are. Domestic Violence goes both ways. Begin to respect yourself today!
Dads give guidance to their sons and moms guidance their daughters. But particularly as girls mature, they need their dads’ perspective as they approach significant crossroads. Daughters need the benefit of their dads’ life experiences and wisdom as they consider important life decisions and think through possible consequences of their choices.
Your daughter also needs to know that you cherish her as a person and you admire her as a lovely young woman. She isn’t just another person; she is special and unique, and worthy of your attention. She is royalty. Your love maybe what it takes for her not to fade into the shadows of darks wondering around looking for hope. She needs you to be a dad not a stranger perpetrating to be someone he’s not.
Begin today by loving her with a simple phone call, taking her to lunch or better yet a hug.
David A. Harris-Gavin