Posts tagged ‘Dating’
Every 45 seconds a marriage ends in America. With it ends not only a covenant of love, but also the stability of a home, financial solidity, and a model of committed love for children to take into their own marriages. Every 45 seconds, American loses more than another marriage. It loses another building block in the structure of what secures her future: strong, loving relationships based on respect, commitment and integrity. This year alone 1.2 million families will experience the rupturing and fragmentation of divorce. Hearts shattered. Children devastated. Hope lost.
Statistics say it all…
1.2 Million couples across America file for divorce each year.
$112 Billion is the annual cost of divorce to taxpayers
4 Weeks of work time is lost during the first year after a divorce
$150 Billion is the annual cost of divorce to U.S. businesses
America is only as strong and healthy as the integral relationships that make her grow and prosper. Committed marriages establish solid families which build strong communitites. Where marriages are committed to serving Christ and each other, relationships thrive.
There is hope in mist of your crisis, just make God your center peace.
We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea.
Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.C. JoyBell C.
“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.” — Sue Grafton
Let it go and focus on self enjoyment.
“The very best of marriages Are made by best of friends, Who face together, hand in hand, The good and bad life sends. They aren’t afraid to share The deepest feelings of the heart, And respect each other’s needs To spend some time apart. They support each other faithfully When troubles come their way, They don’t blame in haste or anger, But who love in what they say. They make marriage like true friendship Full of deeds that show they care, And they find a world of happiness In all the love they share”. —Amanda Bradley
Blended Families face Unique Challenges
The image of the traditional American family — the nuclear family of the Clevers and Huxtables — was once limited to mom, dad, and children living happily together under roof. Today the notion of a typical family has gradually expanded to included blended families of stepparents and stepchildren, like the Bradys and the Kardashians.
Blended families are one of the fastest growing segments of families in the United States, but unlike the nicely packaged problems seen on Television, these families struggle with issues that are anything but easy. Major issues that newly blended families face include integrating discipline styles and coping with strong emotions, while at the same time building new relationships from scratch.
“It’s hard to step out of that role – am I a friend or am I a parent? But as an adult, you’re the parent, you have to discipline because there are going to be times that they’re with you alone,” said New York psychologist Dr. Janet Taylor in an interview with “Good Morning America.”
“Come from a nurturing standpoint, where you teach them responsibility, but do it from a place of love.”
Yes, love is a key factor but the major role begins with the new couple and what they have agreed upon before they said I do. If you begin to look at why the child or children are acting out, you may have a better understand on how to solve the issues at hand. First they have suffered a great loss in loosing the other parent and secondly adjustment doesn’t come over night. Continue to esteem your mate but at the same time don’t stop showing affection for all your children.
David A. Harris-Gavin
Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.
Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear,
whose goal will be high,
a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men,
one who will reach into the future,
yet never forget the past.
And, after all these things are his,
give him, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.
Give him humility,
so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true strength.
Then I, his father, will dare to whisper,
‘I have not lived in vain.’
Blended families have several challenges and barriers. One serious problem that escalates out of control is the way the new husband and wife feels about their kid(s). Better known as the Kid Factor! Each is committed to his or her own flesh and blood, while they’re merely acquainted with the other(s). The problem is when kid(s) sense tension between the parents, they will use it as an opportunity to exploit the situation to their advantage. Therefore, set boundaries for both sets of siblings. Discuss between husband and wife who should handle the discipline and how. Then share these new rules with everyone. I like to call the Barrier Dissolver! Just remember love is the key to barrier breaker.