“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks
True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling. As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater. True love is priceless!
To woo your mate simple means: to seek favor, affection, courtship, love, and finally marriage. Within a blended family we become so caught in our day to day roles until we stop taking time out for ourselves and our mate. When was the last time you told your mate how nice they looked or even smiled. Trust me there is someone out there complimenting and praising them on a regular bases. One of the greatest stress releases is to begin courting your mate all over again. Stop coming up with excuses for why you can’t get away and just do it.
A departing thought! Attempt to do something simple this week for your mate. Example: Right them a love note and place it in there pocket or where they my find it. Thank them out to lunch. Get rid of the kids for a few hours. Be spontaneous! DAHG