Working closely with your mate will help decrease stress within a blended family. Make time for relationship building with your mate. Because of the more complexed challenges in a step or blended family, expect disputes around money, responsibilities, sex, in-laws, traditions and holidays. There are many adjustments to be made within this new family. The first step to finding a balance with your mate is to emphasize the strengths you have with your mate and don’t belittle them.
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Eight Key Principles
• Realize that becoming an instant parent is a challenging task that requires team work.
• Remember that you’re not replacing a parent. You’re creating new beginnings.
• Reinforce your commitment to the marriage first this will benefit the child.
• Regard your role as God’s example of what a marriage is intended to be.
• Rebuild a gradual authority system to function by Biblical guidelines.
• Reflect the love of God by providing security for the child. By offering a safe place to grow and mature.
• Refuse to judge or criticize the missing parent. This only damages the process of blending and healing this new family unit.
• Resist the temptation to withdraw emotionally if you are not immediately accepted.
• Resolve to pray for the child and for your marriage.
“Since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 12:1–2)
Dads give guidance to their sons and moms guidance their daughters. But particularly as girls mature, they need their dads’ perspective as they approach significant crossroads. Daughters need the benefit of their dads’ life experiences and wisdom as they consider important life decisions and think through possible consequences of their choices.
Your daughter also needs to know that you cherish her as a person and you admire her as a lovely young woman. She isn’t just another person; she is special and unique, and worthy of your attention. She is royalty. Your love maybe what it takes for her not to fade into the shadows of darks wondering around looking for hope. She needs you to be a dad not a stranger perpetrating to be someone he’s not.
Begin today by loving her with a simple phone call, taking her to lunch or better yet a hug.
David A. Harris-Gavin
Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. King Whitney Jr. Don’t allow the psychological impact of change discourage the greatest dicussion you ever made in your life. Which can impact you for the rest of your life.
You have set goals, objectives and visions it’s time to see them through. Today, change inwardly by stepping out on faith.
Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.
Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear,
whose goal will be high,
a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men,
one who will reach into the future,
yet never forget the past.
And, after all these things are his,
give him, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.
Give him humility,
so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true strength.
Then I, his father, will dare to whisper,
‘I have not lived in vain.’
This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it
for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes,
this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind … let it be something good.