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Posts tagged ‘LOVE IS THE KEY’
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks
True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling. As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater. True love is priceless!
I think that there are three major aspects of change. One is honesty. We need to be more honest, more aware, and more truthful in facing things that we have not faced.
Another aspect is grief. This is needed in every situation, not just when someone dies. In every problem situation there is usually some sort of loss involved. It may be simply the loss of what we hoped for.
It may be the loss of a dream. There are all kinds of losses involved. By grieving we are able to move to acceptance. We need to have an acceptance of life the way it really is.
This is the opposite of hoping that life is different than it really is, hoping for an alternate reality. Grief is at the heart of all change.
The third aspect of change is forgiveness, which is another process of letting go. In this case, rather than letting go of false hope, you are letting go of revenge. You are letting go of trying to make people pay for your disappointments.
It is very important to keep those three things in order. That really is the order: honesty, grief, and forgiveness.
|“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”|
There is a time and a season for everything under the sun. In a blended family, we miss several signs of who has become a casualty. These casualties may come from wounds of separation, divorce or remarriage. Begin today the process of healing from past and current family wounds. You must understand that this healing comes with time.
Now, how you decide to deal with it will determine what type of scar will remain. Redeem your peace of mind!
Searching for love in all the wrong places. We look for love in men, women, money, work, material things but today I’m suggesting just look for love in one place or the other: in yourself or in God if not both. I have found that the love of God never fails.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
We will face numerous losses, disappointments and changes throughout our lives. The results are final such as: the death of a spouse, parent, child, marriage ending, or relationship. Endings are hard because they mean adjusting to the loss or change.
People tend to hold others hostage to there past. Therefore, they give shoes of guilt to wear. Its at this point that they will attempt to, “make you feel responsible or remorseful for what took place in your past”.
I did things out of habit instead of doing what I knew to be right during my first marriage. I hurt my wife, children and myself. I have shook off the guilt of my past by forgiving myself.
Just because you are in a blended family doesn’t mean you can’t live a happy, forgiven and prosperous life. Just remember it begins with you. You are forgiven and set free !!!!
Fortifying a blended family requires more work then the average household. Why? Because you are attempting to blend and bond two different households. There may be some culture, background or even have different values. Therefore, the husband and wife must become interwoven. The threefold mandate of leaving, cleaving, and becoming one flesh cannot be fulfilled without love. This immediately raises a problem, because there are so many personal and cultural misconceptions about the nature of love. Many people confuse love with infatuation which is generally based on a superficial level of outward appearance, a desire for self-satisfaction, fantasy, and romantic euphoria. But remember for God so love the world that he gave. Are you give unconditional love to your mate and family?