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Dad’s Your Daughters Needs You!


Dads give guidance to their sons and moms guidance their daughters. But particularly as girls mature, they need their dads’ perspective as they approach significant crossroads. Daughters need the benefit of their dads’ life experiences and wisdom as they consider important life decisions and think through possible consequences of their choices.

Your daughter also needs to know that you cherish her as a person and you admire her as a lovely young woman. She isn’t just another person; she is special and unique, and worthy of your attention. She is royalty. Your love maybe what it takes for her not to fade into the shadows of darks wondering around looking for hope. She needs you to be a dad not a stranger perpetrating to be someone he’s not. 

Begin today by loving her with a simple phone call, taking her to lunch or better yet a hug. 

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David A. Harris-Gavin

Blendedfamilyaffair@gmail.com

The Prodigal Son


Your son will return but will you receive him with open arms.  The Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32) gives us God’s response to a rebellious child. Possibly the hardest guideline to follow in this story is how the father allowed his son to take his inheritance and make his own choices. He did not run after his son and beg him to return, nor did he continually berate him for his foolish ways. His son was of age and solely responsible for his actions (Deuteronomy 24:16, Proverbs 1:29-31). This doesn’t mean that the father didn’t love his son. In verse 20 we are told that he saw his son returning from along way off. This implies that his father was watching for his son daily, dearly hoping for him to return and repent. This is not easy but, if we have shared the Gospel and the instructions that the Bible has given us with our children, the final decision to live a Godly life lies with each individual.

 

Stop being a hostage


“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” ― George Bernard Shaw

For decades there have been hidden within families skeletons dancing around seeking freedom.  When will the day come that you will set yours free?

Remember, your enemy can’t hold you hostage if all your skeletons are out of the closet…..

Talk To Me!


God has a plan for you!

Moses raised another objection to God: “Master, please, I don’t talk well. I’ve never been good with words, neither before nor after you spoke to me. I stutter and stammer.”  (Exodus 4:10 MSG)

Just as with Moses so with you!  God desires to take your disability and use it for his ability.  Remember, God is seeing you as his masterpiece not a broken piece.  So arise and do the unthinkable prove the devil to be who he is a liar.

Only if I could tell them whats on my mind

Family


“You must remember, family is often born of blood, but it doesn’t depend on blood. Nor is it exclusive of friendship. Family members can be your best friends, you know. And best friends, whether or not they are related to you, can be your family.”
― Trenton Lee Stewart,

Today, I thank God for the blood of Jesus Christ.

 

Investing time for Love


“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks

True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling.  As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater.  True love is priceless!

 

Keys To A Healthy Marriage


 Throughout your marriage, pay particular attention to the following four behaviors (The Big Red Flags), which are considered to be especially destructive and predictive of marital failure.

 Be on alert for the big red flags: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.

Criticism

There’s a big difference between complaining and criticizing. A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, such as “I’m angry you didn’t put your clothes in the hamper.” But a criticism goes the next step and assigns a character trait, such as “You’re so lazy!”

Defensiveness

In response to a complaint, it might seem natural to defend yourself. But rather than defuse the attack, this response usually escalates it. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your spouse.  You’re saying, in effect, “The problem isn’t me, it’s you.”

Contempt

Too much negativity leads to conversations full of sarcasm, cynicism, and mockery. Contempt is poisonous to a relationship. It conveys disgust, and it eats away at any good in the relationship.

Stonewalling

When there’s no hope of progress, one partner (the man in  percent of cases) simply tunes out. He doesn’t care; he doesn’t even appear to hear. Stonewalling usually arrives last. It represents a deadly disconnection.

Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling can sneak into even the best

of relationships. Undoubtedly, an occasional snipe at one’s spouse will occur at some point in the marriage, but be on alert—if a conscious effort is not made to stop these behaviors, they create a cycle of negativity that becomes increasingly destructive and difficult to stop. * Adapted from Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Making a Family Deposit


It’s not the make-up of your family but the deposit you’re making.

A man cannot leave a better legacy to the world than a well-educated family.” Every man and woman must decide in their lifetime what their legacy is to their children and society. Whether it is financial gains or words of wisdom, everyone has something they can leave as a legacy to humanity. It is knowing that we have a responsibility to leave a legacy that is more than half of the battle. Thomas Scott

One thing about the Truth, it is what it is!


 You must deal with the truth and not run from it.  Are you currently sugar coating something instead giving someone the hard facts?  Just remember light overcomes darkness, so set them free today by speaking the Truth, for it is what it is!  

Dating vs Courtship


In today’s social sector dating is like going to a fast food restaurant. One may go out a couple of times, begin to have sex and in some cases then begin to play house. However, this style of speed dating takes the essence out of courtship. Where the male woo’s a woman for her attention. How does one accomplish this? By inviting her out for walks in the park, cooking a nice dinner for one another, spending time together and getting to know each other. Maybe this person is the one for you and maybe not. Time will tell all before you become sexually or emotional entangled if you allow it. So do you prefer fast food dating over fine dining courtship? Now, that’s something to thank about.

The good news is as a married couple wooing your mate is great for jump starting a marriage thats been in a recession.

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