There is a pressing need for marriages today.
Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology
The book of Hebrews assures us that in Jesus Christ we have a high priest who sympathizes with us in our circumstances: Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need—Hebrews 4:16 (ESV).
Will you draw near the throne with us to lift up today’s families through prayer.
Dads give guidance to their sons and moms guidance their daughters. But particularly as girls mature, they need their dads’ perspective as they approach significant crossroads. Daughters need the benefit of their dads’ life experiences and wisdom as they consider important life decisions and think through possible consequences of their choices.
Your daughter also needs to know that you cherish her as a person and you admire her as a lovely young woman. She isn’t just another person; she is special and unique, and worthy of your attention. She is royalty. Your love maybe what it takes for her not to fade into the shadows of darks wondering around looking for hope. She needs you to be a dad not a stranger perpetrating to be someone he’s not.
Begin today by loving her with a simple phone call, taking her to lunch or better yet a hug.
David A. Harris-Gavin
Blended families have several challenges and barriers. One serious problem that escalates out of control is the way the new husband and wife feels about their kid(s). Better known as the Kid Factor! Each is committed to his or her own flesh and blood, while they’re merely acquainted with the other(s). The problem is when kid(s) sense tension between the parents, they will use it as an opportunity to exploit the situation to their advantage. Therefore, set boundaries for both sets of siblings. Discuss between husband and wife who should handle the discipline and how. Then share these new rules with everyone. I like to call the Barrier Dissolver! Just remember love is the key to barrier breaker.
Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.Albert Einstein
A Man of Value is reflected through the mirror of Character and the heart of Love. Let’s represent as we move forward into a 2013.
Here’s good news just for you. In every blended family their is drama. How much drama does your family have? Because you’re not alone……
Do you really know what your family members are thinking on a regular bases? Are you even listening to them? Do you hear them? Someone near you may be saying thinking this right now. However, you may never know because society has minimize family time. When we spend quality time together we can actually hear whats on one anthers hearts. When was the last time your family had dinner, an outing, or even prayer together. Just wondering! One of the main keys in relationship building is communication. Can you hear me?
I pray you to set your heart upon this, and to offer the humble prayer, “Lord, now reveal yourself to me, so that I may never lose the sight of you. Give me to understand that through the thick darkness you come to make yourself known.” Let not one heart doubt, however dark it may be at midnight – whatever midnight there may be in the soul – in the dark, Christ can reveal Himself.”
Peace Be Still!!!!!
David A. H. Gavin
Granting forgivingness is:
a. Obedience to a command.
……bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Colossians3:13
b. An attitude of letting go of resentment and your right to get even.
c. An action that must be expressed by word and deed.
d. A choice to set your mate free from a debt or an offense that has occurred against you.
In summary, by granting forgiveness it does three things. It releases you from being in bondage, it begins the healing process and it leads to oneness with you mate.
Parents often overlook the fact that there children not only believe the words they speak, but repeat them as well. Siblings will find themselves verbal abusing each other as well as being the victim of verbal abuse as part of their normal activity.
They believe it’s acceptable since they are taking their cues from the parents. Unfortunately, the experiences siblings learn within relationships at home are the same experiences they will bring to relationships outside the home. However, if you take charge now, you can make changes that will positively affect your children’s overall understanding of what constitutes a healthy relationship. What type of environment are you setting for your children?
Stress will stretch couples within a blended family, until all the elastic is gone if you allow it. The sibling wars, parental divided, In laws, exes, health issues and the list goes on.
Before you make that final decision to leave or stay because the pressure is just to much to bear. Reflect back on your wedding vows. It was a few words that stated “for better or worst, sickness and in health, richer or poor” etc…. Now as you may be contemplating packing your baggage’s take a few moments out an inhale, exhale, pray and then decide.