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Family Prayer


There is a pressing need for marriages today.

Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology

The book of Hebrews assures us that in Jesus Christ we have a high priest who sympathizes with us in our circumstances: Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need—Hebrews 4:16 (ESV).
Will you draw near the throne with us to lift up today’s families through prayer.

Come out of the Pond


We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea.

Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.C. JoyBell C.

Regaining Strength 


Don’t allow others to drain your strength.
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.Ann Landers

Let it go


“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.” — Sue Grafton 

Let it go and focus on self enjoyment.

Family Matters


  

A man’s character


“A man’s character is the reality of himself; his reputation, the opinion others have formed about him; character resides in him, reputation in other people; that is the substance, this is the shadow. “

Set yourself free


The power to unlock the door of a negative state is in your hand. It’s called the key of positive thinking and life.  Set yourself free today from whatever has you bound.

“I am living in hell from one day to the next. But there is nothing I can do to escape. I don’t know where I would go if I did. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prision. I entered of my own free will, I locked the door, and I threw away the key.” 

― Haruki Murakami

Abuse is Real pt2


“There were probably many factors that kept the relationship going and kept your love alive. There were all his promises. “I promise this will never happen again.” You believed him the first time. And the second. As the abuse continued, he became increasingly remorseful, his promises more insistent. You continued to believe him; you wanted to believe him. After all, you loved him. 

Then there were all the apologies. He seemed truly sorry. You forgave him. Now, however, when you think back, you realize the apologies were conditional. They blamed you! “I’m sorry, but if only you hadn’t…” They always made his abuse somehow your fault. You may have begun to believe this, and you may even remember apologizing to him. You began to believe that if you were careful about what you said or did, you could prevent the abuse from happening again. As the abuse escalated over time, the blaming became more obvious. “I didn’t mean to hurt you, but if you just weren’t so [stupid, ugly, careless, dumb, etc.], this would never have happened.” Time after time you were made to believe that every act of violence or abuse was your fault. Day after day you were made to feel that you were unworthy of him.” 
― Meg Kennedy DuganIt’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence

Take pride in who you are.  Domestic Violence goes both ways.  Begin to respect yourself today!

Benefits of being an active father


The importance of being a father is not limited to the benefits to children. In fact, research has found that having a positive father involvement carries benefits for men as well.

Fathers have much to benefit from their relationships with their children. A few of the main benefits for involved fathers:

  • More developed sense of self and self-confidence Greater ability to care for others; a more mature understanding of empathy
  • An increased ability to express and demonstrate positive emotions Increased ability to delay gratification in benefit of others 
  • A greater participation in the community Larger involvement in the church 

A greater sense of well-being and personal satisfaction Source: “The Effects of Father Involvement: A Summary of the Research Evidence,” Father Involvement Initiative Ontario Network, Fall 2002 newsletter; and Glen Palm, “Involved Fatherhood: A Second Chance,” Journal of Men’s Studies, November 1993. 

“The guys who fear becoming fathers don’t understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects men.” —Frank S. Pittman, M.D. 

Giving up is not an option!


Encouraging Word: James 1:2-8 (MSG Bible)

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors.  So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely.  Let it do its work so you become mature and well developed, not deficient in any way.

If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father.  He loves to help.  You’ll get His help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it.  Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought.  People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves.  Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.”

Power Word: Giving up is not an option! 

The pressure of life as a disable person has changed my life’s situation differently than when I was healthy.  I just had major surgery on my spine and now am in a wheel chair for an indefinitely time.  This has altered my life in ways I never would have expected as a man.  Part of me wanted to give up!  A gift call friendship made this statement to me:  “By faith you do believe that your car will start once you place the key into the ignition and turn it.”  I answer yes! Well why you can’t believe by faith for your healing.  Even if you never rise up out of that chair there is a higher purpose for you. 

Today, Giving up is not an option.   One of the emotions of being disable is feeling less than, but by faith and connecting with other disabled men and women I realize I’m whole by the grace of God.  I just had to change my mind set and become proactive in facing challenges head on.

God desires to use your “Disability for His Ability!” You’re not alone whatever the situation maybe, there is a plan that will workout for your good.

Prayer:  May His Grace rest upon you removing worry, doubt, frustration, fear and depression.  Replaced the negative with inner joy, peace, love, hope, a smile, positive outlook on life and strength from caregivers. 

There are chapters in every life which are seldom read and certainly not aloud.  ~Carol Shields

David A. Harris-Gavin, dgavin921@gmail.com

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