There is a pressing need for marriages today.
Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology
The book of Hebrews assures us that in Jesus Christ we have a high priest who sympathizes with us in our circumstances: Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need—Hebrews 4:16 (ESV).
Will you draw near the throne with us to lift up today’s families through prayer.
We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea.
Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.C. JoyBell C.
Don’t allow others to drain your strength.
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.Ann Landers
“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.” — Sue Grafton
Let it go and focus on self enjoyment.
“A man’s character is the reality of himself; his reputation, the opinion others have formed about him; character resides in him, reputation in other people; that is the substance, this is the shadow. “
The power to unlock the door of a negative state is in your hand. It’s called the key of positive thinking and life. Set yourself free today from whatever has you bound.
“I am living in hell from one day to the next. But there is nothing I can do to escape. I don’t know where I would go if I did. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prision. I entered of my own free will, I locked the door, and I threw away the key.”
― Haruki Murakami
“There were probably many factors that kept the relationship going and kept your love alive. There were all his promises. “I promise this will never happen again.” You believed him the first time. And the second. As the abuse continued, he became increasingly remorseful, his promises more insistent. You continued to believe him; you wanted to believe him. After all, you loved him.
Then there were all the apologies. He seemed truly sorry. You forgave him. Now, however, when you think back, you realize the apologies were conditional. They blamed you! “I’m sorry, but if only you hadn’t…” They always made his abuse somehow your fault. You may have begun to believe this, and you may even remember apologizing to him. You began to believe that if you were careful about what you said or did, you could prevent the abuse from happening again. As the abuse escalated over time, the blaming became more obvious. “I didn’t mean to hurt you, but if you just weren’t so [stupid, ugly, careless, dumb, etc.], this would never have happened.” Time after time you were made to believe that every act of violence or abuse was your fault. Day after day you were made to feel that you were unworthy of him.”
― Meg Kennedy Dugan, It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
Take pride in who you are. Domestic Violence goes both ways. Begin to respect yourself today!
The importance of being a father is not limited to the benefits to children. In fact, research has found that having a positive father involvement carries benefits for men as well.
Fathers have much to benefit from their relationships with their children. A few of the main benefits for involved fathers:
- More developed sense of self and self-confidence Greater ability to care for others; a more mature understanding of empathy
- An increased ability to express and demonstrate positive emotions Increased ability to delay gratification in benefit of others
- A greater participation in the community Larger involvement in the church
A greater sense of well-being and personal satisfaction Source: “The Effects of Father Involvement: A Summary of the Research Evidence,” Father Involvement Initiative Ontario Network, Fall 2002 newsletter; and Glen Palm, “Involved Fatherhood: A Second Chance,” Journal of Men’s Studies, November 1993.
“The guys who fear becoming fathers don’t understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects men.” —Frank S. Pittman, M.D.