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Grief is Normal PT 2


Most common misinformation on Grief

Today is a great day to begin your healing process.  After you get pass the misinformation replace it with love.

Time heals. Time does not heal, action within time

does. We know people who have waited 10, 20, 30 or

even 40 years to feel better.

Grieve alone. Often this advice is subtly implied,

“Give your mom her space” or “He just needs a few

minutes alone in the other room.” As children, we

learn that this means that sad feelings should be

hidden or experienced alone.

Be strong. Usually the Griever is asked to be strong

for others. “You have to be strong for your [wife]” or

“Be strong for your children.”

Don’t feel bad. This is usually followed by an

intellectually true statement but is not helpful at all

to the Griever, “Don’t feel bad, his su_ering is over.”

or “Don’t feel bad, at least you knew her as long as

you did.”

Replace the loss. This is common with pet loss or

the end of a romantic relationship. “On Tuesday

we’ll get you a new dog” or “There are plenty of fish

in the sea. You just have to get out there and date

again.” Most likely there has been no action taken to

grieve over the loss of the pet or relationship, just an

attempt at not feeling the emotions attached to the

loss.

Keep busy. “If I just keep busy then I won’t have

time to think about the loss.” This one is sad

because some people spend their whole lives with

this mentality and never get a chance to grieve and

complete what was unfinished with the particular

loss.

Recovering from a significant emotional loss is not

an easy task. Taking the actions that lead to

recovery will require your attention,

open-mindedness, willingness, and courage.  It not the in but a new beginning.

Except from The Grief Recovery Method, griefrecoverymethod.com

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The Impact of Change


Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.  King Whitney Jr.  Don’t allow the psychological impact of change discourage the greatest dicussion you ever made in your life.  Which can impact you for the rest of your life.

You have set goals, objectives and visions it’s time to see them through.  Today, change inwardly by stepping out on faith.

 

Dating vs Courtship


In today’s social sector dating is like going to a fast food restaurant. One may go out a couple of times, begin to have sex and in some cases then begin to play house. However, this style of speed dating takes the essence out of courtship. Where the male woo’s a woman for her attention. How does one accomplish this? By inviting her out for walks in the park, cooking a nice dinner for one another, spending time together and getting to know each other. Maybe this person is the one for you and maybe not. Time will tell all before you become sexually or emotional entangled if you allow it. So do you prefer fast food dating over fine dining courtship? Now, that’s something to thank about.

The good news is as a married couple wooing your mate is great for jump starting a marriage thats been in a recession.

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