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Life Nuggets for the Instant Parent


Eight Key Principles

• Realize that becoming an instant parent is a challenging task that requires team work.

• Remember that you’re not replacing a parent. You’re creating new beginnings.

• Reinforce your commitment to the marriage first this will benefit the child.

• Regard your role as God’s example of what a marriage is intended to be.

• Rebuild a gradual authority system to function by Biblical guidelines.

• Reflect the love of God by providing security for the child. By offering a safe place to grow and mature.

• Refuse to judge or criticize the missing parent. This only damages the process of blending and healing this new family unit.

• Resist the temptation to withdraw emotionally if you are not immediately accepted.

• Resolve to pray for the child and for your marriage.

“Since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 12:1–2)

Grandparents as Caregivers


This article is worth noting!

Grandparents are our connection to the past, and often the key to what shapes our future. Grandparents are our history, and we, in turn, are reflections of their lives and experiences. Grandparents set the values and standards by which families live, and it is through traditions that are passed along through generations by grandparents that families remain strong and together. Something as simple as a special family recipe or an annual family reunion can serve to remind us of the importance of our own heritage and our grandparents’ role in preserving it.
In the United States today, there are approximately 5.8 million grandparents living with a #grandchild. Of that number, 2.4 million grandparents ­ mostly grandmothers ­ are the primary caregivers of grandchildren, providing for most of their basic needs when their own parents cannot. Many of these grandparents have not planned to take on these responsibilities having already raised their families. But they gladly take on the challenges nonetheless, often at great personal sacrifice to their own physical, emotional and financial health.

The Administration on #Aging’s National Family Caregiver Support Program provides support for grandparents who are raising their young grandchildren. All too often, grandparents do not know where to turn, and are in need of basic information as well as counseling, support and respite. I am so proud that the National Family Caregiver Support Program is beginning to make a difference in the lives of grandparents across the country. 

The opportunity to develop and expand innovative and supportive programs to assist families and informal caregivers of grandparents and older relatives who are #caregivers of children, has led to exciting innovations in Arizona, Illinois, New York and Pennsylvania:

United Cerebral Palsy of Southern Arizona is increasing services to grandparents and older caregivers who are raising children with mental retardation or developmental disabilities by providing paid vouchers as a mechanism to streamline access to services. 

The Illinois Department on Aging is providing supportive services to frail, older caregivers, who are the parent, legal guardian or family member caring for an adult child with developmental disabilities. 

Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Rochester, New York, is collaborating with 15 national and local organizations to create a Kinship Care Network to help relative caregivers of grandchildren develop knowledge and skills and to improve family stability by resolving legal, financial, health and other problems the family may identify. 

The Pennsylvania Department of Aging is implementing a support system for older caregivers of adult children with mental retardation or developmental disabilities to reimburse consumers for expenditures related to caregiving and provide resources for all caregiving needs.

As we continue to explore new ways of improving service components for grandparent caregivers, it is my hope that we learn from these and similar innovations and share that knowledge and experience throughout the aging network. The challenges faced by grandparents who are raising their grandchildren can be daunting, but they are surmountable. As we reach each milestone, we become one step closer to our vision of a society that is increasingly aware of the importance of supporting grandparents who are caregivers. 

Where to Go for Help:

State and Area Agencies on Aging and local community service providers across the country have instituted programs and services to assist grandparent caregivers. Other important programs offered around the country include respite services and support groups. 

To learn about grandparent caregiver resources in your community use the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116 to contact your local Area Agency. An extensive list of resources and valuable links is also available on the Administration on Aging web site: http://www.aoa.gov.

 Grandparents as Caregivers

By Josefina G. Carbonell

You Are Special!


While under going trials and tests we often forget what God is doing. He is making our walk personal, so we are able to assist others get through their trials and tests. How do we know this? Just remember what Apostle Paul went through and how he used it to minister to others. You were created to be a testamony for someone else!

Forgive Yourself


If you long to receive mercy, is it hard for you to release mercy?  We are awed and humble by God’s gracious forgiving of our sin and failure.  Yet we seem reluctant and sometimes rebellious when the Lord commands us to forgive those who have wronged or hurt us. Why do we hold back? What do we fear? Who suffers most when we hoard God’s mercy for ourselves and withhold it from those whom we refuse to forgive?  The first person you need to forgive and love is yourself.

Trading Places


One of the greatest corners that one must turn in marriage is Trading Places.  We’re living in a society that requires a two household income to provide adequately for there family.  Today, I fine myself as a husband at home taking care of the children and my wife working.  I’ve learned a very valuable lesson.  This is not an easy job!  I honor stay at home parents all over the world that has this special gift.

Unpleasant Changes


When things don’t go our way, we typically go through stages, which are a normal part of the coping and healing process.

1. Denial—”It can’t be,” It can’t happen to me,” “It’s not true”…. The first stage of reaction to any sudden, unexpected event tends to be denial. Denial is normal if it lasts a short time, but persistent denial is unhealthy because it blocks further growth and healing.

2. Anger/Blame—”Whose fault is it?,” “This makes me mad,” “This isn’t fair,” “Why me?” The second stage of reaction looks backward in hopes of finding the cause and someone or something to blame it on. Although nothing can be done at this point to change the past, it’s nevertheless a normal response. Like the stage of denial before it, the anger/blame stage is unhealthy if it persists for an unreasonable amount of time.

3. Despair—This stage tends to be characterized by tears, negative and hopeless/helpless thoughts, and a feeling of total emptiness and loss. Sleep and eating disturbances are common as the “reality” of the situation sets in. Relationships with other people can become more difficult at this time, but understanding and compassion must be given and accepted if one is to move beyond this stage. Stephen R. Yarnall, MD

Change is inevitable but its how you deal with change that will make you a success or a failure.  If you’re right now on the unpleasant side of the balance scale you have the power to tip the scale the other side toward pleasant. Dahg

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