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Life Nuggets for the Instant Parent


Eight Key Principles

• Realize that becoming an instant parent is a challenging task that requires team work.

• Remember that you’re not replacing a parent. You’re creating new beginnings.

• Reinforce your commitment to the marriage first this will benefit the child.

• Regard your role as God’s example of what a marriage is intended to be.

• Rebuild a gradual authority system to function by Biblical guidelines.

• Reflect the love of God by providing security for the child. By offering a safe place to grow and mature.

• Refuse to judge or criticize the missing parent. This only damages the process of blending and healing this new family unit.

• Resist the temptation to withdraw emotionally if you are not immediately accepted.

• Resolve to pray for the child and for your marriage.

“Since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 12:1–2)

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A Measure of Grace


My biological mother passed some 14 years ago and during her sickness my stepmother always made herself available.  Now, I’m older, wiser and truly understand the importance of family.

My stepmother loves me unconditionally just like the Lord; despite my faults.  Now, it’s my turn to be a blessing to her by assisting my half-siblings to care give for her.  Oh, what a blessing…

Can you forget about yourself and bless a family member in spite of how they may have treated you growing up?  Just a thought!

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A Man of Value


Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.Albert Einstein

A Man of Value is reflected through the mirror of Character and the heart of Love.  Let’s represent as we move forward into a 2013.

What’s on your plate?


My wife and I recently had a nice dinner at this fabulous restaurant in the mountains.  As I was glanced over the menu this thought came to mind.

Do you find that there is just not enough time in the day to complete the entire task listed on your calendar.  Have you taken a pause lately to evaluate all that’s on your plate?  Even when a person sits down to prepare to partake in a delightful seven-course meal they automatically have an understanding that each meal course comes in segments.  So, What’s on your plate?  Do you have enough quality time set aside on your plate to spend with your children, mate, work, self, parents, relatives, and friends?  We must not leave out our spiritual time that keeps us balance.  With all that’s going on within the market place re-evaluate today, the type of seven-course meal you are subjecting yourself to on a regular bases.   It’s not that your plate is too small that’s causing your stress.  Maybe, you just need to take some items off of the menu.

Forgive Me Not!


Are you holding onto unforgiveness? When you think about one being confined.  It has the same similarities of one being in prison for a crime or awaiting trial.  One of my children came to me and said thank you dad for teaching me how to forgive.  For its better to be at peace then to allow someone else to not only hold the key to your freedom but to also imprison you for something that was not in your control.

There are many people in society that will never accept our apology or forgiveness, just give it to God and move forward.  You are loved by many, special, gifted, unique, and most of all God has forgiven you.

 

You Are Special!


While under going trials and tests we often forget what God is doing. He is making our walk personal, so we are able to assist others get through their trials and tests. How do we know this? Just remember what Apostle Paul went through and how he used it to minister to others. You were created to be a testamony for someone else!

Unpleasant Changes


When things don’t go our way, we typically go through stages, which are a normal part of the coping and healing process.

1. Denial—”It can’t be,” It can’t happen to me,” “It’s not true”…. The first stage of reaction to any sudden, unexpected event tends to be denial. Denial is normal if it lasts a short time, but persistent denial is unhealthy because it blocks further growth and healing.

2. Anger/Blame—”Whose fault is it?,” “This makes me mad,” “This isn’t fair,” “Why me?” The second stage of reaction looks backward in hopes of finding the cause and someone or something to blame it on. Although nothing can be done at this point to change the past, it’s nevertheless a normal response. Like the stage of denial before it, the anger/blame stage is unhealthy if it persists for an unreasonable amount of time.

3. Despair—This stage tends to be characterized by tears, negative and hopeless/helpless thoughts, and a feeling of total emptiness and loss. Sleep and eating disturbances are common as the “reality” of the situation sets in. Relationships with other people can become more difficult at this time, but understanding and compassion must be given and accepted if one is to move beyond this stage. Stephen R. Yarnall, MD

Change is inevitable but its how you deal with change that will make you a success or a failure.  If you’re right now on the unpleasant side of the balance scale you have the power to tip the scale the other side toward pleasant. Dahg

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