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Ready for a Change


Are you ready for a change in your life?  A new adventure, new scenery, new love, new attitude, new home, whatever your desire it begins with you.  Just know changes come with a price.  It’s like being in the hand of a potter; being remolded or reshaped.  The end result is unknown.  The bottom-line change is for the best…..  GET READY FOR A CHANGE TODAY!

 

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My Hero


My hero is not an athletic, actor or artist but my grandfather.
In every family there is someone we can admire as our hero.  My grandfather was  just that kind of person.  He was a hard working family man who laid a foundation of life principles and lessons on  how to turn your struggles into success.  Every generation have been touch in one way or another by these core values.
Love – Everyone at there need level
Strength – In the mist of adversity
Tenacity – I never quite attitude
My hero left a legacy of  what  a husband, Godly man, father, and community leader looks like.  Who is your hero?

Loss but not a Loser


Often people never can (or should) “get over” significant losses, such as the death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce or even loss of a home. The pain may always be with you in some capacity. Although much of the sharp pain of sorrow goes away in time, you may always have a sense of the loss. The grief process is not about getting over it, but about learning how to live with the reality of the loss.  I believe that God has you in the palm of his hand.  Just don’t give up.

Stop being a hostage


“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” ― George Bernard Shaw

For decades there have been hidden within families skeletons dancing around seeking freedom.  When will the day come that you will set yours free?

Remember, your enemy can’t hold you hostage if all your skeletons are out of the closet…..

You’re not alone


Here’s good news just for you.  In every blended family their is drama.   How much drama does your family have?  Because you’re not alone……

Talk To Me!


God has a plan for you!

Moses raised another objection to God: “Master, please, I don’t talk well. I’ve never been good with words, neither before nor after you spoke to me. I stutter and stammer.”  (Exodus 4:10 MSG)

Just as with Moses so with you!  God desires to take your disability and use it for his ability.  Remember, God is seeing you as his masterpiece not a broken piece.  So arise and do the unthinkable prove the devil to be who he is a liar.

Only if I could tell them whats on my mind

Investing time for Love


“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks

True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling.  As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater.  True love is priceless!

 

Keys To A Healthy Marriage


 Throughout your marriage, pay particular attention to the following four behaviors (The Big Red Flags), which are considered to be especially destructive and predictive of marital failure.

 Be on alert for the big red flags: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.

Criticism

There’s a big difference between complaining and criticizing. A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, such as “I’m angry you didn’t put your clothes in the hamper.” But a criticism goes the next step and assigns a character trait, such as “You’re so lazy!”

Defensiveness

In response to a complaint, it might seem natural to defend yourself. But rather than defuse the attack, this response usually escalates it. Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your spouse.  You’re saying, in effect, “The problem isn’t me, it’s you.”

Contempt

Too much negativity leads to conversations full of sarcasm, cynicism, and mockery. Contempt is poisonous to a relationship. It conveys disgust, and it eats away at any good in the relationship.

Stonewalling

When there’s no hope of progress, one partner (the man in  percent of cases) simply tunes out. He doesn’t care; he doesn’t even appear to hear. Stonewalling usually arrives last. It represents a deadly disconnection.

Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling can sneak into even the best

of relationships. Undoubtedly, an occasional snipe at one’s spouse will occur at some point in the marriage, but be on alert—if a conscious effort is not made to stop these behaviors, they create a cycle of negativity that becomes increasingly destructive and difficult to stop. * Adapted from Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

What’s on your plate?


My wife and I recently had a nice dinner at this fabulous restaurant in the mountains.  As I was glanced over the menu this thought came to mind.

Do you find that there is just not enough time in the day to complete the entire task listed on your calendar.  Have you taken a pause lately to evaluate all that’s on your plate?  Even when a person sits down to prepare to partake in a delightful seven-course meal they automatically have an understanding that each meal course comes in segments.  So, What’s on your plate?  Do you have enough quality time set aside on your plate to spend with your children, mate, work, self, parents, relatives, and friends?  We must not leave out our spiritual time that keeps us balance.  With all that’s going on within the market place re-evaluate today, the type of seven-course meal you are subjecting yourself to on a regular bases.   It’s not that your plate is too small that’s causing your stress.  Maybe, you just need to take some items off of the menu.

Searching for love!


Searching for love in all the wrong places.  We look for love in men, women, money, work, material things but today I’m suggesting just look for love in one place or the other: in yourself  or in God if not both.  I have found that the love of God never fails.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

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