Neither is marriage to be view as a social convenience nor simply an invention for living together. It is ordained by God to be a covenant vow of companionship and mutual complement (Genesis 2:18, 22-21; Malachi 2:14; Matthew 19:3-6), and it is meant to keep you set apart in your physical relationship for one another.
The Word of God also gives instruction’s to love your spouse (Ephesians 5:25); as yourself. If you are a believer in Christ even if your spouse never practices biblical love, you can still be at peace (Psalm 119:165) and can do your part to bring about harmony in your home. But remember you first need to examine yourself before you examine your spouse (Matthew 7:1-5). After seventeen years wife my wife I realize that marriage is truly about dying to your flesh daily. Have you die to your flesh today?