Granting forgivingness is:
a. Obedience to a command.
……bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Colossians3:13
b. An attitude of letting go of resentment and your right to get even.
c. An action that must be expressed by word and deed.
d. A choice to set your mate free from a debt or an offense that has occurred against you.
In summary, by granting forgiveness it does three things. It releases you from being in bondage, it begins the healing process and it leads to oneness with you mate.