We will face numerous losses, disappointments and changes throughout our lives. The results are final such as: the death of a spouse, parent, child, marriage ending, or relationship. Endings are hard because they mean adjusting to the loss or change.
People tend to hold others hostage to there past. Therefore, they give shoes of guilt to wear. Its at this point that they will attempt to, “make you feel responsible or remorseful for what took place in your past”.
I did things out of habit instead of doing what I knew to be right during my first marriage. I hurt my wife, children and myself. I have shook off the guilt of my past by forgiving myself.
Just because you are in a blended family doesn’t mean you can’t live a happy, forgiven and prosperous life. Just remember it begins with you. You are forgiven and set free !!!!
Life is a test, if life was not a test you would have all the answers! That being said, I had to accept that I’m an imperfect person living in an imperfect world with outsiders attempting to place expectations upon me over and over again. When you accept expectations from others over and over again the end result is stress.
We must also understand that sometime in life we are whiplashed with crises out of the blue like a flood that just stresses us out. A study listed the top twelve most stressful crises that a marriage can experience:
1) Death of a child
2) Jail sentence
3) An unfaithful spouse
4) Major financial difficulty or bankruptcy
5) Business failure
6) Being fired
7) Miscarriage or stillbirth
8) Court appearance
9) Unwanted pregnancy
10) Major illness in the family — cancer or heart disease
11) Unemployed for over one month
12) Death of a close friend
The only way families have a chance to survive the storms of life that come against us is to have a God given foundation – which is the WORD and Prayer. This may be your season to step back, refocus, and prepare for the next examine. It’s only a test and it’s so good to know the one who holds the pencil with the eraser at the end of it.
While under going trials and tests we often forget what God is doing. He is making our walk personal, so we are able to assist others get through their trials and tests. How do we know this? Just remember what Apostle Paul went through and how he used it to minister to others. You were created to be a testamony for someone else!
Fortifying a blended family requires more work then the average household. Why? Because you are attempting to blend and bond two different households. There may be some culture, background or even have different values. Therefore, the husband and wife must become interwoven. The threefold mandate of leaving, cleaving, and becoming one flesh cannot be fulfilled without love. This immediately raises a problem, because there are so many personal and cultural misconceptions about the nature of love. Many people confuse love with infatuation which is generally based on a superficial level of outward appearance, a desire for self-satisfaction, fantasy, and romantic euphoria. But remember for God so love the world that he gave. Are you give unconditional love to your mate and family?
During this season of love, are you will to go the full distance for your mate according to the wedding vow i.e. “Till death us do part!” For that matter becoming a martyr for love. Love is kind, patient, gentle, warm, unconditional, forgiving and the list goes on. But what does Red, Love, Valentines Day and Till death us do part, have in common? I’m glad you ask! DAHG
Saint Valentine’s Day, commonly shortened to Valentine’s Day, is a holiday observed on February 14 honoring one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine. It was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, and was later deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI.
The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines“). read more @http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine’s_Day
If you long to receive mercy, is it hard for you to release mercy? We are awed and humble by God’s gracious forgiving of our sin and failure. Yet we seem reluctant and sometimes rebellious when the Lord commands us to forgive those who have wronged or hurt us. Why do we hold back? What do we fear? Who suffers most when we hoard God’s mercy for ourselves and withhold it from those whom we refuse to forgive? The first person you need to forgive and love is yourself.
Truth is a battle of conceptions. You must deal with the truth and not run from it. Are you currently sugar coating something instead giving someone the hard facts? Just remember light overcomes darkness, so set them free today.