Family Drama

Every family has drama, how you deal with this dramatic experience will leave you one of several ways.  Depressed, anger, having negative thoughts, or maybe walking out.  Yes you may add to the list!  Point being, you’re not in this alone.  The stage has now been set, dad has had a bad day at work, same for mom at home, little Johnny or Jane at school and home is the battleground.

Here’s a thought:  Someone needs to take charge, will it be you or the kids?

If you have never been hated by your child you have never been a parent.  ~Bette Davis

A Father’s Prayer

Build me a son, O Lord,

who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.

Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.

Here let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here let him learn compassion for those who fail.

Build me a son whose heart will be clear,
whose goal will be high,
a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men,
one who will reach into the future,
yet never forget the past.

And, after all these things are his,
give him, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.

Give him humility,
so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true strength.
Then I, his father, will dare to whisper,
‘I have not lived in vain.’

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Ready for a Change

Are you ready for a change in your life?  A new adventure, new scenery, new love, new attitude, new home, whatever your desire it begins with you.  Just know changes come with a price.  It’s like being in the hand of a potter; being remolded or reshaped.  The end result is unknown.  The bottom-line change is for the best…..  GET READY FOR A CHANGE TODAY!

 

Loss but not a Loser

Often people never can (or should) “get over” significant losses, such as the death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce or even loss of a home. The pain may always be with you in some capacity. Although much of the sharp pain of sorrow goes away in time, you may always have a sense of the loss. The grief process is not about getting over it, but about learning how to live with the reality of the loss.  I believe that God has you in the palm of his hand.  Just don’t give up.

You’re not alone

Here’s good news just for you.  In every blended family their is drama.   How much drama does your family have?  Because you’re not alone……

Talk To Me!

God has a plan for you!

Moses raised another objection to God: “Master, please, I don’t talk well. I’ve never been good with words, neither before nor after you spoke to me. I stutter and stammer.”  (Exodus 4:10 MSG)

Just as with Moses so with you!  God desires to take your disability and use it for his ability.  Remember, God is seeing you as his masterpiece not a broken piece.  So arise and do the unthinkable prove the devil to be who he is a liar.

Only if I could tell them whats on my mind

Family

“You must remember, family is often born of blood, but it doesn’t depend on blood. Nor is it exclusive of friendship. Family members can be your best friends, you know. And best friends, whether or not they are related to you, can be your family.”
― Trenton Lee Stewart,

Today, I thank God for the blood of Jesus Christ.

 

Domestic Violence

A few weeks ago a mother in my area was killed outside of her place of employment by her ex-husband.  It made me stop and think how many people are living in fear day to day or moment by moment for their lives.  If this is you, today can be the beginning of a new day for you!  Take these few words to heart…..  You no longer have to live as a prisoner in your home or your mind.  Today, you are release from fear, bondage, being a punching bag, and most importantly being a hostage.  Yes you are FREE!

Domestic violence is physical, mental, sexual, or emotional abuse in an intimate relationship. It occurs when one person uses abusive tactics to gain power and control over a partner or former partner.

Domestic violence hits homes in every community. It has a devastating effect on victims, children, families, and communities.

If you are a victim, you can get help by calling the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic

Violence crisis line toll-free, 24 hours a day at 1-800-650-6522. There are safe shelters across

the state for you and your children, as well as many other services.

There is no excuse for domestic violence. If your spouse engages in one or several of the behaviors listed on this page, it may be an indication that you’re in an abusive relationship, and you should carefully evaluate your relationship and talk with a professional who can help.

Makes you feel like you’re walking on eggshells to keep the peace
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Makes you feel like a prisoner in your own home •
Yells at you frequently and calls you hurtful names •
Is unpredictable or has sudden mood swings
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Threatens you with violence
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Breaks or hits things in your presence
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Gives you hateful or threatening looks
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Shoves, slaps, or hits you
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Abuses your children
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Keeps you from seeing friends or family
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Hurts your pets
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Follows you, spies on you, or shows up at your job, school, or friends’ homes
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Listens to your phone calls or keeps you from using the phone
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Is forceful with affection and/or sex
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Accuses you of having affairs
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Controls all the money and gives
you little or none
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Keeps you from getting or keeping a job
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Pushed you to make a commitment before you felt ready
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Has a history of battering in other relationships •
Gets very angry or upset with you often and then apologizes with gifts, flowers, and promises

Begin to love yourself by getting help today.

*Adapted from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Three Major Aspects of Change

I think that there are three major aspects of change. One is honesty. We need to be more honest, more aware, and more truthful in facing things that we have not faced.

Another aspect is grief.  This is needed in every situation, not just when someone dies. In every problem situation there is usually some sort of loss involved. It may be simply the loss of what we hoped for.

It may be the loss of a dream. There are all kinds of losses involved. By grieving we are able to move to acceptance. We need to have an acceptance of life the way it really is.

This is the opposite of hoping that life is different than it really is, hoping for an alternate reality. Grief is at the heart of all change.

The third aspect of change is forgiveness, which is another process of letting go. In this case, rather than letting go of false hope, you are letting go of revenge. You are letting go of trying to make people pay for your disappointments.

It is very important to keep those three things in order. That really is the order: honesty, grief, and forgiveness.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

Maria Robinson

Courage to continue on!

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill